Hello. It's tears. Today we're talking about friendship between men, or friendship between men and women. Please understand that this is my personal opinion as it may be based on my own biases.
I don't think I need male friends. Of course, if you're a student, it might be nice to have same-sex male friends. You can say that this is because being a student is a special period where everything is forgiven just by studying. However, some people become so busy with work that they have no time to hang out with friends. I work so hard that I don't have time to study or play even on holidays. There will be many people like this.
I believe that the majority of relationships among working adults are work-related. Even if you work for a good white company, you will spend 8 hours a day, or 2000 hours a year, at work. For this reason, working adults are increasingly involved in relationships between their superiors and subordinates at work. Of course, there are also contemporaries. They may have started working at the same company in the same year and may have a relationship where they occasionally drink alcohol. After 5 or 10 years, you should be able to figure out which of you is on the path to advancement.
"Ah, that guy from my class is more successful than me." If that's the case, a hierarchical relationship will likely emerge among the classmates. I think friendships between men of the same sex should never be underestimated. Even if a person is very popular with women, if something really bothers them, the person who will reach out to them may be a man of the same sex. On top of that, I think it's more rational to think of men in terms of hierarchical relationships rather than as equals. This is because in order for men to be equal, they need a special relationship, such as when they were students at the same university without any job title.
However, once you start working, you'll find that you'll find a variety of things to compare with, such as whether that person's company is bigger or whether he's already a section manager. In my case, I generally don't look down on others or look up at them. Everyone is equal. However, as members of society, there is always something called status. So, when we compare them based on their status, we end up thinking that I'm better than them based on a certain standard, or that he's not as successful as me. Based on that standard, the other party probably feels the same way.
On top of that, men of the same gender will naturally compare themselves. If this is the case, a hierarchical relationship will emerge. But what about women of the opposite sex? I think it is difficult to compare men with women in terms of which career path is best for them. Even if women are promoted, it doesn't necessarily mean that they recognize the equality of men and women these days or their abilities. Today's society is definitely male-dominated. Therefore, even if women are promoted higher in the ranks, you should not honestly think that it is because of a difference in ability. This may be the reason why men and women tend to have a special hierarchical relationship.
Friendship between men and women is simple. The question is whether you can tolerate having a partner whose boyfriend is the other woman. If a woman doesn't care if she has another boyfriend, then a friendship between a man and a woman would be possible. However, this is often the most difficult aspect of friendship between men and women.
I would like to summarize my opinion here. Personally, I don't look down on anyone or look up at anyone. Everyone is equal. However, depending on the roles given by society, hierarchical relationships arise. It is up to each person to set aside this hierarchical relationship and decide whether they still see it as equality or whether a hierarchical relationship exists. On top of that, it's up to you whether you can ignore romance and get involved with a woman of the opposite sex. In the end, each person's opinion is different, and that's what allows society to function. This is one conclusion for me. What do you think. See you soon.