Hello. This is Nada. Today I would like to observe a creature called Happo Bijin.
Turning enemies into allies may seem difficult at first glance. It can be inferred that even though they are not enemies, but rivals, they are not allies in the sense of being opponents. I sometimes see the opinion that Happo Bijin is not a very good style. I've read a book about Adler's psychology of the courage to be hated, but I don't remember much of it. On top of that, the attitude of not caring about being disliked can be said to be compromising yourself.
If you really want to change yourself proactively, you should try to find ways to be liked even more by the people you currently like, and to build good relationships with people you don't currently get along with, even if it takes time. The attitude that it's okay for that person to hate you ends up setting a high bar for being liked by a lot of people, and your relationships become based on being hated. Even if it is a bit more taxing, if you have a policy of being liked by as many people as possible, you will have a desire to improve and you will be able to ride a virtuous cycle of growth. I'm by no means suggesting to other people that they should try to be beautiful in every way and perfect it. There are probably ways to be liked by people even if you're not a beautiful person, and the negative image of beautiful people, which is broad and shallow, is not necessarily a good thing.
However, if you look at social media these days, it can be said that the wide-ranging and shallow relationships of the beautiful people in all directions give you a chance to approach more people, and in the end, you can have more fun than a closed group of friends. If you settle into a group of only a few friends, even the smallest thing will be treated as a serious problem within the group, and you may even be kicked out of the group.
Returning to the theme of this article, the best way to turn an enemy into an ally is to give them an advantage. When you go on a trip, you might buy pudding or deer souvenirs, but try handing them out to people you're against. If one of them approaches the other, the wind will naturally pass through them. Alternatively, when your rival is inevitably attacked and you are losing, sending salt to your enemy is of course a risky move, but it can also be said to have many benefits. Above all, you don't see your enemy as an enemy; once you recognize him as an enemy, you can't get him out of your head, and your hostility increases. Even if it's just a can of coffee, give someone you think you don't like as a gift. Then, if you talk to him, you might realize that he wasn't really that bad. The worst part is that there is no communication at all. Maybe it would be a good idea to try and make some excuse to talk to her, like you would with that girl you like. If that doesn't cure your dislike, I think it's enough to just communicate by greeting each other.
What impression did you get? See you soon.
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